Saying I Love You

The all times special three-letters word, "I Love You" is what we would always be hearing when we talk about love. It is the words that one would use to express their feeling of affection for their very loved ones.
But still, why is it that at times one simply just refuses to say it to their love?
There have indeed been a lot of postings from friends in our forum having such experience. Despite of them saying it to their partner, they just never got it back from their love. It is for sure disappointing and at times just hurting, isn't it?
Are you one of them? One who is still waiting to be hearing that special words from your love or perhaps one who has yet to say it to your love?
Now, why wouldn't one say it? Why would one be reluctant in saying it to their love, saying an I love you to them?
Hmmm...? Perhaps having the fear of shouldering that responsibility behind these powerful words?
Yes, it is in a way true. You shouldn't be saying I love you to someone unless you truly mean it. Once it is said, you can never take it back.

Well in fact, a friend in our forum did share with us a thought of what he heard from a Christian pastor on a radio programme. In the belief of the pastor, a man shouldn't be telling a woman that he loves her unless the very next words are "Will you marry me?"
Again, it is indeed in a way true. But if you were to ask me, I am just going to tell you that it certainly need not has to be that serious or maybe a better word to be describing, scary.
Yes, marriage should without doubts be the ultimate consideration of all love relationship at the end of the day. But do let me just ask, how soon do you see yourself getting married?
Well, there has to certainly be a considerable time of being together before the relationship would further develop into the stage of marriage. For some, a year or two and for some, up to even a duration of 5 to 7 years before reaching this stage.
So are you not going to be saying "I love you" to your love during these times, not even once?
This certainly shouldn't be the way. A healthy love relationship shouldn't be so.
Now may I just ask, why is it that you want to be with that love of yours? Because you enjoy his or her presence, always enjoying your time with him or her?
Precisely! A healthy relationship should always be an enjoyable one, one which both enjoy spending their time with one another over and over again. There is no need to make yourself be feeling so stressed. A healthy relationship should never be a stressful one. Having to deal with the fast paced world can be stressful enough at times. And so when it comes to your relationship with your loved one, it should be a relaxing and enjoyable one.
It is only when you enjoy the time with one another, will you ever then have the thoughts of spending that life of yours with him or her. Isn't it so?
Saying I love you is just a way of expressing your affection for your love. It doesn't have to be that stressful. It should instead just come from within your heart, in a very joyful and relaxing mood.
To be getting an "I love You" from your love is just always that sweet. And to be saying it to your love, is a nice way of assuring and promising him or her of your very love for them.
So, why not say it to them? Tell your very love just how much you love him or her. You need not have to wait for him or her. You can definitely be taking the initiative. Why not? I am sure that your love would just love to be hearing it from you. Wouldn't you love to be hearing it from your very loved one too, hearing a very "I Love You" from him or her?

By Rick Valens